Because I Can Jim
08-06-2013, 04:27 PM
I was talking with my coach/mentor (Kahunab) last night and he pointed out that he is my coach.
I have spent a lot of my life studying self-help, psychology, motivation, philosophy, etc... and thought this topic would make for a good reminder posting.
My mom taught me to be very independent. I don't need anyone to take care of me. When I have a problem, I solve it myself. I don't ask for help unless it is so far beyond me to be able to work through the situation and then I feel funny about asking for the help. It was just my upbringing.
My Hapkido Grandmaster Sang H. Kim would tell me "There are those who can do. There are those who can teach. Then there are those who can do and teach -this is best."
In the real world, everything of any importance is done in teams.
Tiger Woods has a coach.
Michael Jordan had a coach.
Baseball hitters and pitchers have coaches.
Any one in any kind of sport or endeavor has a coach.
This forum is a coach and those posting on it are coaches.
But, here is the thing.... Coaching to improve requires two-way comunication. There has to be a dialog. If you don't ask... your question will never be answered. If you ask and the response is not what you expect, think about it and post your thoughts.
From my Grandmaster - "It is one thing to do. It is another thing to teach. In teaching you learn so much more than in the doing. In doing, you learn about your own unique physical structure, psychology, etc... In teaching, you have to learn about other's perspectives of how to apply a techinique if you are tall or short, fat or skinny, etc..." So, in teaching, the teachers learn as much if not more than the student so don't consider it a one-way street and without students they would not be able to continue to learn.
Who is a better golfer - Tiger Woods or his coach?
So, why does Tiger have a coach? He has one because his coach helps him to think about his game and how to improve it. And what does Tiger do? He works on his game making slight changes through constant improvement and then comes out playing better than before. This is what my coach pointed out to me last night.
I had a preconceived notion of my hanidicappnig game from back in 1985. My coach helped me to revamp my game. It looks nothing like it did from back then although it is based upon the same fundamental concepts presented in the Sartin Methodology from various teachers/instructors. After four months of work, I am now profitable.
Yet, my game is mentally draining and while I am not (was not) concerned with picking winners, I am looking down the road.
My coach said, Jim, you have an ROI of over 50%. You can retire rich. LOL!
My response was that I don't need to have any more sessions with him if that was the case, but,..... I am about constant improvement. We discussed parts of my game such as being mentally draining and not being concerned with picking winners if I was going to move on to exotic betting.
And in the discussion, it turns out that my thinking about Running Styles is weak.
This is what a coach is for.... He points out things for you to think about, but, you have the final say as to what you do. For example, he uses Best VDC for pace line selection. I use Last Line and decide upon if those are the lines I want to use. He is a good coach. He gets me to think without telling me what to do. Yet, without the dialog we had last night, my game would have stayed the same.
He asked me before we hung up if this discussion was of any help. It was hard to phrase that while I don't need to open up a can of worms because I don't want to fix what is not broke, I could feel internally the frustration with what we were talking about - and that was a good thing, because the frustration means that I am learning through his guidance.
So, don't be afraid to post to the forum. There are many here who are giving and willing to help - and that includes me too. While our games are different, some will resonate more than others. But, all will get you to think. What you hear may not be what you want to hear and it will at times be frustrating, but, it is all a part of the natural process of learning. Ultimately, you will decide what works best for you.
Jim
Any Questions. Any Time.
I have spent a lot of my life studying self-help, psychology, motivation, philosophy, etc... and thought this topic would make for a good reminder posting.
My mom taught me to be very independent. I don't need anyone to take care of me. When I have a problem, I solve it myself. I don't ask for help unless it is so far beyond me to be able to work through the situation and then I feel funny about asking for the help. It was just my upbringing.
My Hapkido Grandmaster Sang H. Kim would tell me "There are those who can do. There are those who can teach. Then there are those who can do and teach -this is best."
In the real world, everything of any importance is done in teams.
Tiger Woods has a coach.
Michael Jordan had a coach.
Baseball hitters and pitchers have coaches.
Any one in any kind of sport or endeavor has a coach.
This forum is a coach and those posting on it are coaches.
But, here is the thing.... Coaching to improve requires two-way comunication. There has to be a dialog. If you don't ask... your question will never be answered. If you ask and the response is not what you expect, think about it and post your thoughts.
From my Grandmaster - "It is one thing to do. It is another thing to teach. In teaching you learn so much more than in the doing. In doing, you learn about your own unique physical structure, psychology, etc... In teaching, you have to learn about other's perspectives of how to apply a techinique if you are tall or short, fat or skinny, etc..." So, in teaching, the teachers learn as much if not more than the student so don't consider it a one-way street and without students they would not be able to continue to learn.
Who is a better golfer - Tiger Woods or his coach?
So, why does Tiger have a coach? He has one because his coach helps him to think about his game and how to improve it. And what does Tiger do? He works on his game making slight changes through constant improvement and then comes out playing better than before. This is what my coach pointed out to me last night.
I had a preconceived notion of my hanidicappnig game from back in 1985. My coach helped me to revamp my game. It looks nothing like it did from back then although it is based upon the same fundamental concepts presented in the Sartin Methodology from various teachers/instructors. After four months of work, I am now profitable.
Yet, my game is mentally draining and while I am not (was not) concerned with picking winners, I am looking down the road.
My coach said, Jim, you have an ROI of over 50%. You can retire rich. LOL!
My response was that I don't need to have any more sessions with him if that was the case, but,..... I am about constant improvement. We discussed parts of my game such as being mentally draining and not being concerned with picking winners if I was going to move on to exotic betting.
And in the discussion, it turns out that my thinking about Running Styles is weak.
This is what a coach is for.... He points out things for you to think about, but, you have the final say as to what you do. For example, he uses Best VDC for pace line selection. I use Last Line and decide upon if those are the lines I want to use. He is a good coach. He gets me to think without telling me what to do. Yet, without the dialog we had last night, my game would have stayed the same.
He asked me before we hung up if this discussion was of any help. It was hard to phrase that while I don't need to open up a can of worms because I don't want to fix what is not broke, I could feel internally the frustration with what we were talking about - and that was a good thing, because the frustration means that I am learning through his guidance.
So, don't be afraid to post to the forum. There are many here who are giving and willing to help - and that includes me too. While our games are different, some will resonate more than others. But, all will get you to think. What you hear may not be what you want to hear and it will at times be frustrating, but, it is all a part of the natural process of learning. Ultimately, you will decide what works best for you.
Jim
Any Questions. Any Time.